It has taken me a while to realize this, but apparently when I say certain things, what people hear is different. For example:
|What I say:||What they hear:|
|1.||"In a moment."||"In a few minutes."|
|2.||"In a minute."||"In several minutes."|
|3.||"In a few minutes."||"...When I get around to it."|
|4.||"I'll be leaving soon."||"I'm leaving right now."|
|5.||"I need to go now."||"I should probably think about heading out in half an hour or so."|
|6.||"I'd like a few."||"I'd like one or two."|
[In response to "How are
|"I'm good." (Or even "I'm great!")|
|8.||"I don't remember that."||"I doubt that happened."|
|9.||"I don't know."||"Perhaps you should nag me for a while and try to push me into committing to an answer."|
|10.||"I think there's a better way to do it."||"I think that's a bad idea and you're dumb."|
Okay, maybe I'm exaggerating at least a little on the last two.
Regarding the first three: While I acknowledge that sometimes I take longer than I intended to, generally I do say what I mean.
Regarding number eight: When I say I don't remember something it never means I'm doubting it, it only means I don't remember the event or issue.
I will admit that the "surviving" response is intended to be a non-committal answer, and while I still mean it, it doesn't necessarily mean exactly what I said.
Why can't people just take me—and others—at their word? Almost as frustrating is when I encounter essentially the same problem in reverse when I'm interacting with other people; I'm very literal minded and usually take what people say literally when they're actually being non-specific and vague in their answers.